“How are you?”
A question that pops out easily and one that doesn’t get an honest answer. The answer to this question has been ingrained so deep in our minds that we answer without even a millisecond of thought. “I’m fine”, I’m okay”, I’m doing good” so on goes the list of answers that act as a mask more often than we think.
Lately, I have been asked this question quite frequently and sometimes I think for about three seconds before answering. And I have come up with an answer that anyone can use when they are not feeling on top of the world and are having a bad day just like everyone does sometimes or the other.
“I am not fine but I will be.”
Times are hard and it is high time we normalize having a bad day. A day you feel like you are stuck in a loop. A day when you feel that you have no purpose in life. A day when you question your existence. A day when you feel staying alive is expensive and is a bad investment. A day when you drown yourself in tears for reasons you don’t even understand. A day when you feel everything around you shutting its doors.
We all got such days and knowing that it is just our mind and hormones being a drama queen and it is totally fine to have a bad day comes as a great assurance.
All we got to do is find the window out of it. Some may be able to do so on their own and some may need a little professional help. But rest assured that we will find that damn window come what may.
Now you may ask why a window and not a door. We are all very familiar with the saying that when nine doors shut another one opens and we should wait patiently. But I think real life is more complicated than that. Sometimes all we would have are shut doors. This is where the window comes into the picture. A window isn’t normally seen as a way to go out or in except for Romeo, old-school lovers, and robbers. A window can be seen as an opportunity that we didn’t quite perceive as one. Something that is quite plausible in real life.
I found my window. So will you.
And the best remedy for a bad day is nothing but listening to your favorite song and a warm comfy blanket to hug you. Ice cream or milkshake doesn’t sound like a bad idea either. By trial and error, we will all find what our sad heart needs to get back on its feet.